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May 29, 2007
Mother's Day, revisited
I started this post last week, but I haven't had the time or inclination to rehash this crap over the weekend. It needs to be done, though, if only to get it out of my head. In the absence of real friends to talk to, I have to let it out here.
I feel the need to talk more about the Mother's Day debacle, partly to get it out of my head, and partly because I imagine it's the only way my husband is going to understand why I'm so upset. God forbid I actually talk directly *to* him.
I wasn't expecting a big gift. In fact, I didn't want one. I don't even really expect much of a gift from Rex at all. After all, it's Mother's Day, and I'm not his mother. What I wanted was for Rex to be the person to tell my girls to greet me with a "Happy Mother's Day!", not my dad. I wanted him to spend some time with them, making me scribbled card or a sappy cut out heart. I wanted him to teach them that it was a day to make mom feel honored, loved and appreciated.
All I felt was forgotten. I'm not sure if Rex even knows if the girls told me to have a happy Mother's Day. He certainly didn't coach them to tell me, my father took care of that. He offered to take the girls to Wal*Mart and meet us at his grandparents house for lunch, so they could pick up a card. I'd rather the girls not know that Mother's Day exists than learn that it's ok to run out halfway through the day and show up 5 minutes later with whatever card was still left on the shelf at the mega mart. I may not have the highest self-esteem, but even *I* know I'm worth more than that.
I've thought of lots of ways he could have dug himself out of this hole, some of them even before he got himself into it. So far, he hasn't taken me up on any one of my ideas, not that I've said them out loud. This is one of those things he has to figure out how to fix himself.
Posted by me at May 29, 2007 10:21 PM
Comments
Hi, you don't know me at all as I've only lurked on your site before, but I thought I'd put in a word or two on this. I'm so sorry you're upset with your husband about the Mother's Day thing. Have you e-mailed him your blog link so he can understand better? I know it's sometimes hard to actually talk about something and easier to write it. But he needs to know how you feel. A friend of mine once felt this way on Mother's Day for a very similar reason and she and her husband ultimately got divorced - and she always cited that Mother's Day as important symbol of an underlying problem. I'm not saying you have an underlying problem (it sounds as if you guys are going through a lot of changes in your life right now) but please do try to talk to your husband about how you feel. It's important. Also? Your kids are ADORABLE!!!!
Posted by: Mauigirl52 at May 30, 2007 11:18 AM